May 2016

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If you want your children to develop a strong moral ground, teach them with kindness – Part 4

It seems harsh to use punishment with a young child who has so few strategies for resolving conflict. She doesn’t have the language skills or emotional control to calmly explain her point of view, let alone negotiate. She also doesn’t have the skills to talk herself through an upsetting situation. If she is placed in a naughty chair instead of being offered support, she is only likely to rage in isolation, disconnected from adults, in a manner that seems far more likely to breed later deviance. What she would learn from this is that avoiding punishment is more important than having a voice.

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